it's not your parents fault: the parent fallacy

I am not needy or lonely because my mother did not love me enough or my dad was not around. absent.
No, no. this ground was already here. these actors were already in place; out of Necessity.
She didnt leave me because i am not good enough. no she left me because i chose the one to leave me. and i am the not good enough cahracter in the fantasy.
the third chaper needed the actors... but the stroy can be turned.
this story came with me already lived through the womb.
of course i chose, out of free will, her and not the other. yet the urges push the urges forward. laying the ground for a climactic emotional vessel.
but by seeing through, the story may be turned.